Wednesday, January 22, 2014

my little daughter problems

My little daughter is a problem child. This statement out from a psychologist. Cahaya -name of my daughter- go to school since last year, 2012. As I told at my blog, in first year, cahaya always go to school accompanied with her Mom. Everything alright because the first years is playgroups class. After that year, the rule of a school said that student must go to school without anyone. And Cahaya does not happy with that.

In the middle of 2013, i think in August, my wife invited by school to talk about this problem, and my wife discuss with a psychologist. A psychologist is a school's partner. By this facts, I and my wife agree with his suggestion. He suggest for implementing by forced. It's popular as "terapi paksa". A psychologist says that this treatment have no risk. Whatever kind of risk. And always success. But, i'm not sure with this.

At the end of this case, I turn off this treatment because i'm not deal with the risk that happen in third day. In first week, my daughter become grumpy girl, like hitting, morose, hate all about school, hate her Mom, and does not want to socializing. I must stop therapy. My wife confused. Because --with the roll of time-- the psychologist step by step ignoring his statement. He always argued that the risk that happen is not his fault.

This day, when I write this blog, is fifth month since I broke the therapy. This day also fifth month since I implement "holy verses therapy" as my mother teach me. I read loud enough verses from surah al-Hasyr and at-Taubah. I read after subuh beside Cahaya's bed.

After five months, one by one of problems is gone. Cahaya become cheerful and friendly with her Mom. She start to play with her friends. So she success hold her hand from hitting somebody. But, she still have traumatic about school. Everything about school, especially teacher, uniform, and classroom. Traumatic that happen in five months is a serious problem. Occurred to my mind to sue psychologist, but my wife looks not agree with this.

What can I do now ? My wife invites cahaya go to school when holiday or after school hours, at the other school. Cahaya had out from existing school. Go to school when holiday or after school hours means no teacher, no classroom, no uniform. I think they go twice a week. I'm not sure about how many times they gone because i'm at my office at same time.
Clear in my head, slowly, Cahaya's passion to play in school garden had growth. If they go with my second daughter, cahaya more happiest than alone. But, until now, Cahaya still doesn't want go to school normally. This problem is very very serious, but I still thanks to God because my daughter left her five problems although it still lags one problem behind. Alhamdulillah. [] haris fauzi - 22 jan 2014

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